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5 Self-Pleasuring Tips for Men (Guest Post By Dave McDermott)

Deliberately slow your breathing right down, particularly as you approach higher arousal levels so you don’t rush to ejaculation. See how deep and slow you can breathe, from the very beginning of your self-pleasuring session.


Try expressing your pleasure through sound. Moan, hum, sing, groan. Find whatever sound works for you to express your pleasure. Men are often silent even while experiencing pleasure. It drives a woman crazy to hear men express their pleasure through sound. Woman are usually much more vocal than men in their pleasure. Practice in your self-pleasuring so you are comfortable expressing your pleasure through sound with a partner!


Make the space sacred when you self-pleasure, because you’re worth it. Light some candles, put on some sensual calming music, dim the lights, give yourself a massage or go for a massage before you self-pleasure to wake your whole body up.


If you use porn, try and minimise it, or ideally don’t use it at all. Porn keeps men in their head. The best sexual experiences require men to be in their bodies, not their heads. Stay with your physical experience, even if it means staying with low arousal levels for a while. Your patience will be rewarded.


If you need to fantasise to get aroused, try and keep it to a minimum so you can explore what it’s like to experience in the moment with just you and your body. You don’t NEED porn or fantasy to have a great time with yourself. When you realise that, you’ll be way less needy around women, and they’ll be WAY more attracted to you.

  • Do you sense there is a part of you that is holding back, that you could be a much more powerful force in the world?

  • Do you know there is “more” to sex than what you are currently enjoying, but just can’t figure out how to get there?

  • Are you seeking more depth, intimacy and frequent sex in your relationship(s), but struggle to make it happen?

  • Does “pleasing your lover” and “getting what you want” sexually feel like incompatible goals and you worry you will live the rest of your life making compromises that leave you both unfulfilled?

  • Do you sense your connection with women could be much deeper?

  • That there is a place of much deeper understanding of and connection with women that’s available, if only you could figure out how to get there?


If you found yourself saying “yes” to one or more of these questions, the Evolved Masculine Path program may be exactly what you’re looking for in your life right now.

The Evolved Masculine Path was created to:

  • Provide a space for men to be real, authentic, and even vulnerable together, while challenging each other each other to live a purposeful life of integrity with an open heart.
  • Support men in cultivating a strong depth of presence, a natural masculine potency, and unshakeable confidence in who they are both as men of purpose and as masculine sexual beings.
  • Help men connect with and deeply satisfy women emotionally, physically, and spiritually, to hold space for a woman’s emotions without buckling, to entice her desire, drawing out her authentic natural sexual expression without manipulation or coercion.



If you’re resonating with what you’re reading and want to find out more about the program, contact Lady Vee for a referral ( )



Published in Lady Vee : BeWitchFul Confidence